“Are you still working on your resolutions post?” Brian asked. Yes. It was never-ending. Over 2 weeks, 12 drafts, and around 2672 words each. It’s typically one of my favorite posts to write all year. I REALLY like resolutions, not because I achieve them, but because it’s like a mental co-pilot who you hire for a couple months and then you feel really good about how you are flying…until you push them out of the plane because by April their January-enthusiasm has become unbearable.
But still, I love them. It might be a Mormon thing. Who knows.
So why was it so hard this year? The first few drafts felt very ‘over-achiever-y’ with a cloying super-mom bent that was unintended. Even I was annoyed with my future 2018 self. I scrapped those and made it broader with more macro goals, but it felt really serious and heavy, and no matter how hard I tried I couldn’t lighten it up. My New Year’s resolutions centered around reducing my stress (in every aspect) so I can be a better designer, writer, boss, person, wife, and mother. But, ironically, the act of writing and publishing the post became this incredible source of stress. It was a therapeutic journaling experience and I really did come up with some great mantras and methods for how I’m going to shift things to meet that goal (hire high-level managers, say no to even more, spend more time at the cabin, see some people more and others less, etc.). But the truth is that I don’t want to start the new year talking about stress so I’m not going to post it. I ended last year talking about it. Then, I had an incredible week doing nothing with my family, and I feel really good and ready to talk about something else – improvement-wise.
In mid-November I remember thinking, Yay, I already know my new year’s resolution. One particular subject had dominated my thoughts and no, it wasn’t my stress level. I wrote about it on Thanksgiving and I could talk about it for hours, and hours, and hours, but the gist of it is this:
The newest (and most uncomfortable) nomenclature for my job is ‘influencer’ and while I’m not sure I’ll ever be a fan of that word, let’s just say that if that’s true, I need to ask myself what exactly is my influence? I know that if I recommend a lamp that I love, some of you will buy it. So it seems socially irresponsible to not make giving back even more of a priority, publicly. Besides, I have two small kids being raised in this tricky city and they need us to show them how human beings should treat each other.
I’ve gone round and round on how to do this and over the next year I’ll be trying out some new ideas and exploring how I can use the power of this platform for good. The first project will be a huge rummage sale – a MASSIVE garage sale – with all proceeds going to a charity (TBD). I’m pretty much pairing my first love (thrifting/garage sale-ing) with my job. BOOM. Oh hell yes, this is going to be fun.
What we do here produces a lot of perfectly good waste, which we typically donate but in my attempt to create more of a community of service I thought it would be so fun to involve any of you in LA (and your kids) who want to also come donate your January purges and volunteer to work the sale. Also, as I was purging in November I was again shocked at how many perfectly good clothes, toys, and books our kids out-grow. And I know I’m not alone. Somehow just dropping off at Goodwill feels like a missed opportunity. I was going to do a big gift drive before the holidays but couldn’t pull it together in time, and instead volunteered to decorate the shelter which felt more manageable.
The details are still being worked out and I’m hoping through this post a venue will be donated and the perfect charity will pop-up. As much as I love donating money to national non-profits, I’d love an LA program that has a more direct route to helping local families, kids, or under-privileged neighborhoods/schools. I also want to spread it around and not just give consistently to the same programs (Miry’s list and The SFV Rescue mission are amazing programs, and Baby 2 Baby and Alliance Of Moms are also doing incredible things).
Any suggestions of venue and charity would be great. If there is anybody out there that has organized such events before that wants to volunteer to manage or keep things organized, that would be AMAZING. And if you guys have stuff that you want to get rid of before February (when the sale will likely be) let us know and we can arrange pickup or a way for you to drop-off. It could be anything that is gently used or in decent shape. Furniture, accessories, clothes, toys, books, electronics – anything that someone would actually buy (avoiding broken things or stained stuff).
More to come on that obviously, but I’m very excited to both purge, help, and shop 🙂
Happy New Year, friends. I woke up feeling GREAT. I’m excited and ready to make 2018 the best year it can be. xx
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