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Some Random Thoughts On Our Marriage (+ Happy Birthday And Anniversary Brian)

Yesterday was Brian’s birthday, two weeks ago was our wedding anniversary and I realized it had been a while since I dished on how life with this guy is going. It’s not really anyone’s business, and yet I find myself with stuff to say and a place to say it so here we go. Recently I heard this concept of “multiple marriages” within the same long-term monogamous relationship and all the bells went off – “how true,” I thought. When you hear about people being together for 23 + years (us) when you are really young, one might wonder if it gets boring and monotonous. Do you get sick of each other? Does it just get stale and like you are going through the motions? Is it even possible to retain attraction? And while I know that it can and often does fade away (or simply isn’t the right long-term healthy fit), there’s also a version where the decades-long relationship morphs and changes so much that years of a marriage feels totally different – dare I say even new and fresh (at times). You think that the initial falling in love will be the most fun part (and it is VERY fun), but the years of ups and downs after are certainly more interesting and dynamic. This is the case for us.

The Falling In Love And Life Before Kids

Brian and I are in our 3rd decade together, with two kids, almost 8 and 10, and it does feel like through the highs and lows we’ve had three or four totally different marriages. Let’s recap: We fell in love in college (for me almost immediately, took more time with him). Our twenties were so fun – graduating from U of O together, moving to New York (Hope! Excitement!), and breaking up so someone could grow up a bit. Our careers grew – Brian graduated from NYU grad school, performed on Broadway (amongst so many other roles) and I launched my freelance styling career. It ended with a splendidly happy wedding where the whole room believed we could make it.

Our 30s – WHAT’S NEXT AND HOW DO WE DO THIS

We were solid. Solid enough to move to LA and pursue the unknown in a rather tricky city full of unquenchable ambition. Our thirties started with a real slump (2008 recession + writers strike) and our careers went in two different directions which was very challenging for our relationship. I remember the night after I won DesignStar a producer said, “Just so you know, you’ll need a marriage counselor”. Ha. “Nope! Not us!,” I thought. We almost didn’t make it and got caught up in a resentment and neglect cycle despite also really still liking each other (which can be confusing, like he’s still my best friend but we were so off and felt very disconnected). We both knew we were in TROUBLE and yet we wanted kids soon. So we enacted “extreme marriage makeover 2012” where we decided to give it a real effort and lo and behold it worked (therapy, which he wrote about here was a huge driver of this success). AND THANK GOD. I did NOT like that version of our marriage, but it gave us tools.

The First Baby Bubble

Our first baby (and our first home in Glendale) brought us into this incredible little bubble and we were BACK! Co-parenting with Brian has (almost) always been easy and has come naturally, thank god. My first Target contract gave us financial stability that we had never had (not even with a TV show). Life with a baby was so fun. Not perfect, but pretty great.

But that precious bubble didn’t last. With two kids under two with my career being almost unmanageably demanding and stressful (and fun, but insert the invention of social media), I neglected “us,” which wasn’t even a surprise at the time. It felt impossible and I felt like I was drowning. Mix in some circumstantial depression that comes with being in your 30s and unsure where life is headed and things got challenging again. We had more tools this time (thanks to therapy) and two kids to think about, so it didn’t break us but we simply didn’t have a lot of emotional bandwidth for each other. All our energy went to the kids, my job, and then his shift back into theater (which was the key to getting out of his said depression, you can not keep creativity locked inside – FULL STOP). In those years we were totally fine, mostly good and our day-to-day was as best as we thought it could be, but now I can see we were more surviving than thriving. Maybe that’s just life for all parents with little kids. Who knows.

Then…LOCKDOWN

Then lockdown happened, and despite the extreme awfulness of it all, it brought us so much clarity and closeness. Brian and I realized how much we really liked being with each other and our kids (thus the extreme life change). The pressure lifted off both of us to be some bigger/better version that we thought the world wanted us to be (spoiler – it’s all in our heads). External expectations on life plummeted and this sense of calm moved in. Our kids became best friends (with no one else to play with) and Brian and I totally reignited our relationship. And then coming out of it, despite dips in my own stuff (reemerging was hard for me, and grappling with external pressures might be my consistent battle). But the clarity that we had during that time remains constant. Moving to Portland has been so good for us, our kids getting older/easier has been so fun for all of us, and we have entered this fresh stage that I don’t want to ever end (and yet I know it might/will).

Over the years there have been times in our marriage where he and I have felt more like buddies, siblings and coworkers, for sure. So many date nights full of us just talking about house logistics and kid coordination (we have a rule about that now). But right now I feel so lucky to have made it through those versions of marriage because THIS Brian Henderson, this iteration of the man I fell in love with 23 years ago, is HANDS DOWN MY FAVORITE. If you don’t like hearing about someone else’s supportive husband/dad then stop reading, but it’s his birthday so I’m going to gush about him a lot right now. He remains so funny, creative, interesting, extremely handsome and so smart and insightful. We can still talk for hours (given the time that we have to prioritize). I legit enjoy hanging out with him so much. He coaches Charlie’s basketball, sets up a homework station in the “Alpasture” in the afternoons, and is trying to be active in the PTA and PTO at our school. He is getting his masters in creative writing, is so dedicated to the book is he writing, and still makes time to be the lead parent with our kids setting such an incredible example for both of them. Sure, it took us years to figure out how to make our mutually supportive roles work in a way that feels fair and fulfilling for both of us, without resentments – it didn’t happen overnight. And listen, those patterns/issues still rear their head (and will likely forever), but now we see them coming earlier and we have healthier ways to work through them causing less damage. It’s so easy for a marriage to fall apart – slowly then all at once, so we are watching it like a hawk because the kids will be out of the house in 10 years and then it’s just US and we hope to really still like each other. That will be a whole new marriage in and of itself that I’m not ready to even think about (and yet still sounds strangely exciting).

One last thought – A few weeks ago I had this massive shoot here at our house – three days of 20+ people staring at me all day as I extroverted hard and performed the best version of my designer/blogger self. It went really well and was so fulfilling. But afterward, all I wanted was him – almost like an existential need. He is this rock that is both so solid and so soft, and while I’m sure it’s hard to see your wife get so much attention at times (especially as a performer himself), he was so supportive. He’s known my insides since before all of this, since we were 21. At times we were worried we met too young, and now we realize it can be such a gift. He is both the scaffolding and the antidote through all the highs and lows in my own life. It’s probably why our kids are obsessed with him, too – this solid and soft combo that he has. Everybody loves Brian Henderson and while I hope he knows it, today is the day he is going to hear it from me.

Part of me wondered why post this. Why not just write him a letter and keep such personal things private – you know, like a normal person? But I suppose I would love to hear this from someone else. I guess my hope in writing this is that A. Brian feels so loved and admired as he should, and B. For those of you in a rough spot in your marriage or maybe just starting out, our first-hand experience is that decades of being together inevitably produce different marriages – some almost unbearably hard and others refreshingly romantic. Nothing is like the original falling in love, but the bond, the partnership, the connection of all our insides, the support, the interdependence, the shared knowing glances, the inside jokes, the made-up words/languages, and the sense of this TEAM doing life together is so much better than getting than those initial butterflies.

After we got married (at 27) I used to say that the happiest and saddest thing about getting married is that IF you are lucky you’ll never get to fall in love again. Little did I know how much deeper you can fall. Happy Birthday (and anniversary), my love. xx

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Tarynkay
4 months ago

I love hearing about other people’s supportive and wonderful husbands! Thank you so much for sharing this. He sounds amazing, and I’m so glad that you found each other. Here’s to the next 23 years! Higher up and further in!

My husband and I have been together since 1998 and got married in 2001, at 22 years old. This was not a normal thing to do in our circles and I don’t think that many people thought we would make it. However! 22 years later, we are still crazy about each other. My husband is the best person I’ve ever known. This was a fun anniversary because we are both now 44 and have thus been married for half of our lives.

Bo
4 months ago

A belated happy birthday to Brian and a wish for many more joy-filled ones. Beautifully expressed story of the journey of one marriage. Our children are owed persistence.

Vera
4 months ago

Oh Emily I love this! I am in a VERY tumultuous marriage. We both brought so many wounds into it (and started so young, married at 23, first baby at 25) so we didn’t have the maturity to handle so much. There were many times we thought we’d made a huge mistake.  But thanks to amazing mentors and therapists we are working through it all and realizing that the fact that we trigger each other and bring out the worst in each other is actually a blessing – it brings our wounds into the light so we can be healed. (If not for my marriage there would be a lot of unhealthy things deep in me, never brought to the surface but constantly hurting me and others, if that makes sense.) And through it all, he is indeed my best friend. Your last two paragraphs are such a beautiful description of this kind of richness. Finally, I have to add: you and Brian are one of the many blessings in our life – his therapy post a few years ago was one of the influences that got me and hubby to both start therapy! So big thanks to you both… Read more »

🥰 Rusty
4 months ago
Reply to  Vera

😊

Holly
4 months ago

Congrats, and Happy Birthday to Brian! I love hearing about people pursuing new paths and adventures later in life, and I think it is so exciting that Brian is working towards his masters. I would be so curious to learn more about this new educational pursuit of his as well as about the book he is working on if he ever felt inclined to share about his journey. Congratulations again!

Sara
4 months ago

Please write about your marriage anytime you feel like it! I find it to be such a good reminder that your relationship can and will change, but that doesn’t make it any less than the previous versions. This thought, and the pieces you’ve shared of your marriage in general, are truly such helpful reminder for me in my own relationship.

Kate
4 months ago

Super sweet! I think it’s a wonderful thing to be able to look back on the highs and lows and appreciate how they have helped shape your marriage. Growth doesn’t happen if everything stays exactly the same and is constantly sunshine and roses! You’ve always said perfection is boring, right?! Congrats on your recent anniversary; cheers to many more!

Kat
4 months ago

I love reading these kinds of posts!

KD
4 months ago

Cheers to the Hendersons!

4 months ago

Such a beautiful share, Emily. I literally have had multiple marriages to the same person. We first married on July 13, 2013. Then had a horrendous separation and divorce in 2017-18. Then remarried on August 13, 2020, during lockdown, via an online ceremony that technically took place in Utah (although I was in Canada and he was in Washington state). Our new marriage is entirely different. WE are entirely different. As individuals and as a couple. So many ways to do this marriage thing…

🥰 Rusty
4 months ago

Oh my goodness!!! I’m not crying. Okay, I AM CRYING!!!
I’m crying such happy, big, genuine tears for both of you, bear n birdie and all your menagerie…coz love is real!
Looking at the photos is like bring there, reading those parts of your blog all over again.
Your reconnection during Lockdown was tangible; I could read it inbetween the lines and see it in Principal Henderson’s ways as he stepped forward into the light a bit more.
You’ve worked your puzzle pieces out.
#I.Am.So.Happy.For.You.All!!!!
💕🥰 💕

Christa
4 months ago

Awww such sweetness. Happy Birthday Brian.

Julie
4 months ago

Even though I love your design posts, I also LOVE your personal posts like this one. I still remember many of your posts from years back, about your marriage and children and priorities. Thank you for posting this and happy birthday, Brian!

Ash
4 months ago

Emily, I love your writing style. You somehow managed to compose a heartfelt tribute to Brian and your ever-evolving marriage without once sounding sappy or trite. You have gratitude for your life without glossing over the rough bits. You’re right: sometimes we do have to brag about our partners in public; not to envoke envy from others, but to show that we are paying attention and living with intention.

Stacia
4 months ago
Reply to  Ash

I love your relatable writing style too! You truly have a gift for writing heartfelt and genuine essays. I very much enjoy and appreciate them!

Thank you for sharing! I think this is a perspective that surprisingly doesn’t get talked about all that much – you hear about the struggles from the people that fall apart, not from the people that stay together – and yet it’s so important to have it be part of the narrative. Plus, it’s nice to hear about people being genuinely happy. Congratulations to you both and happy birthday to Brian!

4 months ago

Oh Emily I loved reading this post. Happy birthday to Brian! My husband and I are from Oregon (met in high school, but started dating at Oregon State). We’ve been married since 2005 (at age 23) and our kids are 8 and 10. We often talk about how we have been different people in our 18 years of marriage, we’ve gone through “the dark ages” as we call a period between 2008-2011, where we almost called it quits, but we just really liked each other and fought hard for one another even though life sucked. We’ve moved crossed country 3 times and life with kids is hard and fun at the same time. I often reminisce the glory days of a kid free home, but I don’t miss the people we were at that stage. Life is really good and it’s so fun to look back and see how much we’ve grown and changed together and how many storms we’ve weathered. Cheers to the roller coaster that is marriage.

4 months ago
Reply to  Ella Friberg

Wow, Ella. I just checked out your beautiful art. So lovely!

Mirza
4 months ago

Love this post!
I think young kids + marriage + work is an impossible equation. You have to neglect one (or two) of them, and it’s ok. Things do change and come back, life is not a straight path, it would be boring!

Monique Wright Interior Design
4 months ago
Reply to  Emily

I feel like what marriage is portrayed as out in the world is at times completely different from the reality. Expectations are completely skewed. I got married at 24 (I’m now 40), and with time and maturity, my understanding of marriage is wholly different. Sometimes just the commitment carries you through. Beautiful post Emily. ❤️

Ruthie
4 months ago

Hello!
I love love! The other day my husband was doing some work on the house and I was talking to my daughters about how incredible I think he is, and all the different reasons why. I often think about the first moment I saw him, and how wonderfully and quickly we fell in love, then I fast forward to now, 17 years and two little girls later, and I think about how incredible he is, and how I didn’t then know the full extent of all he is/was/would become, and that makes me even more excited for that initial meeting. And that in turn, makes me excited and grateful for now.
Thank you for sharing!

Caitlin
4 months ago

I have only been married for four years but we are now in the stage of 2 young kids (6 mo and 2.5 yo) and I feel like we are in the surviving not thriving stage. I don’t know how it’s possible to thrive with both of us committed to our careers and how much attention little kids need. It’s nice to hear from others that this is just a stage.
We started dating 13 years ago as freshmen in college so it feels like we have gone through so many relationship phases. We have had some crazy moves/job changes and I love that he has been by my side through it all.

Stacia
4 months ago
Reply to  Caitlin

Hang in there!

Suz
4 months ago

Having just spent the weekend with you guys, I can attest to the amazing relationship you & Bri share. The fun, loving atmosphere in your home is magical. Plus, the example you’re setting for Ellie & Charlie will serve them well when the time comes. I know I’m gushing, but it’s true!

🥰 Rusty
4 months ago
Reply to  Suz

💕

Vera
4 months ago
Reply to  Suz

Aww Suz!!! ❤️❤️❤️

Abby
4 months ago

I loved reading this post! Thank you for sharing!

Anonymous Please
4 months ago

Marriage can be rough at times. We just had our 25th anniversary but almost didn’t make it past the 10th (I was genuinely shocked that day when my husband gave me an anniversary card because things were not going well at the time). Don’t give up the ship (unless your ship is an abusive a-hole).

Summer
4 months ago

Aw, Emily! I’m glad you posted this! I am also happily married, and I love when you share about Brian and all of the effort you guys put into your relationship and your family. Honestly, I think about you and your marriage strangely often. I’m so grateful for this blog, but I very much see how difficult it would make so many parts of your life, especially your marriage (this actually would be one of the things on my mind in the middle of the night after all of that negativity towards Brian’s posts way back when!). As weird as it may sound, I’ve prayed for you a bunch since then. It’s a joy to hear that your marriage has survived and thrived in the midst of all of this. What you wrote at the end was beautiful and reminded me of one of my favourite albums by Sara Groves called Fireflies and Songs. You might enjoy a good deal of it, but “Different Kinds of Happy” will give you a delightful tune to go along with this truth you’ve discovered: “wish those two good see us now, they would never believe that there are different kinds of happy.” Happy… Read more »

Stephanie
4 months ago

This is beautiful. Thank you so much for sharing with us. I know this may sound weird, since I’m a stranger on the internet, but I’ve always felt a little bit of kinship with Brian from the tidbits you’ve shared (his thoughts on design, his creative writing, his funny comments) and the posts he’s graciously written. He seems like an absolutely awesome dad and partner and so central to your wonderful family dynamic.

Thanks also for sharing the hard bits as well as the good bits to give us all the encouragement to develop healthy tools and hang in there. You guys are the best. Happy Birthday, Brian!

jen
4 months ago

This was so sweet and touching! Have been married 25 years and together since I was 20, he 22, and so much of this is relatable. What a beautiful blessing marriage is! The ups and downs make us who we are and because we were willing to push through it is a beautiful (albeit not perfect) place to be. Happy Birthday to Brian and congratulations to the both of you!

Patricia
4 months ago

Heading into 39 years married, but friends since I was 22 years old. Yes, the relationship changed over the years. We feel very lucky. I don’t think there’s anyone else I could have loved (and liked!) for so many years. Do we annoy each other? Yup. Do we make each other laugh? Yup. Do we find ways to do things for each other? Over and over again.

Suzanne
4 months ago

Well this is beautiful and your final line brought a tear to my eye. The Hendos continuing to bring the inspiration, in all forms! We’re in the little kids years (2 and 4), so this resonates. Happy birthday, Brian!

T
4 months ago
Reply to  Suzanne

I also refer to them as “the Hendos” in my head! 🙂

Cynthia Gylov
4 months ago

Beautiful words, beautifully written. I/we love Brian Henderson too!

Cheryl
4 months ago

To those two young and crazy kids on your wedding invite, look what you did! You did hard things for each other over and over. Somehow that connection remains and it’s beautiful.
As a former performer I truly relate to the crushing emptiness of life without that creative expression, it is impossible not to let those dissatisfied feelings and deep down heartache seep into your relationships. Having the ability to analyze yourself instead of pointing fingers is a gift. Change yourself and you change the world, even if it’s a little farmhouse world in a corner of Portland. Good luck with the writing, Brian!

lor
4 months ago

Happy happy to you both. Marriage is an interesting ride. I’m on ‘chapter two’ (as is my #2 hubbie) and this relationship is night & day different from #1. Not just because of being older/wiser, but being with someone who is actually my favourite person in the world. As you said so well, ‘my rock and my soft place’. It’s amazing.

Riri
4 months ago

SHO SHWEET!!! This weekend, the YouTube algo recommended Esther Perel’s Ted Talk on affairs, in which she describes the multiple marriages within one monogamous relationship that you reference. Love this synchronicity, and love your post on the ups and downs of your beautiful marriage. It’s always a delight to read something personal by you. Happy anniversary!

Ariane
4 months ago

Oooh this is so sweet !!! I’m 44 and unfortunatly divorced, but I still have the dream to have what You have with your husband ! Different obviously because of my situation, but this kind of connection and partnership. Your Brian seems like such a wonderfull man and he IS very handsome!😅 Happy you both !

Nancy Fiskum
4 months ago

My husband and I have our 50th next week! We adapted to moves and job changes and rearing two very different children, our parents’ deaths, our own health crises and so much more. We share a rock-solid commitment to our two now-adult children (and 3 teenage grandkids) as well as to God, who has been real to us through it all. We have almost always been able to bounce ideas off each other and share questions and thoughts about practically everything. We value each other’s knowledge and wisdom, and we understand that we both need some alone time for activities that bring joy to one of us but not to the other. Of course it was not always romance-novel perfect, but I would do it again in a minute! Happy 23rd to you! And 50 will be here before you can believe you are even old enough for that!

Arthella Starke
4 months ago

Let me add my insights and personal thoughts about Emily and Brian. As Emily’s mom, I can tell you that Brian is a blessing to her, to his children and to us. Mothers always worry about the “in-law” but Brian is the perfect gentleman in all ways. He has treated his Mother-in-law, (me) with the utmost respect and kindness and has been willing to pitch in and help with every family dinner and activity. He is lighthearted and fun to be around and makes everyone feel warm and loved. Emily and Brian are a delightful people and together they are a dynamite duo and we are so grateful that we can claim them and brag about them as our children. Needless to say, we adore our wonderful grandchildren who are extraordinary little kids. Spending time with them is entertaining and fulfilling. We love all you guys!

🥰 Rusty
4 months ago

💕

Margaret
4 months ago

Awww….this brought tears to my eyes, because it is so honest, and loving. Brian is truly one of the good ones, and your many marriages with him have been worth the effort. It’s clear that you’re better together. Congratulations!

KL
4 months ago

I’ve only been married a few years, but I realized recently that we passed our 10-year dating anniversary (we met in college too). We’re now entering our 30s with no “plan” other than not wanting kids, which is the big off-script decision that means we get/have to make our own choices about the next decade.

Emilie
4 months ago

This was a very sweet post, and the idea of multiple marriages gave focus to some thoughts I had been having recently. Thanks! There was recently an Atlantic article (https://tinyurl.com/mr26jt36) that described falling in love as the price you pay for the more substantial happiness of long-term relationships. (The idea being, falling love feels great but is exhausting and hard.)

As an add-on to all the praise for Brian’s therapy post, I also wanted to say that your post on romance novels has really been a boon to my marriage 🙂 (I needed something to help sex from getting drowned out by everything else going on in my head, and an occasional romance novel seems to be it! My husband are both having a lot of fun these days.)

Nicki
4 months ago

Emily, you are so talented and I love reading and watching you pull together spaces and how you admit when you make a mistake or are design fatigued. But even more than that, I love your non design posts. They are real, raw, sometimes controversial, inspirational and hopeful. Happy anniversary and happy birthday to Brian. XX

A.B.
4 months ago

And yay for romance novels! Complete romance restarter.

Karyn Meadows
4 months ago

I just read this and found it to be absolutely lovely. My husband and I have been married for 30 years with a grown son. We married after only meeting 3 months prior and we have always known that each other was it. Just it. But when our son was 9, we went through a huge marital threat when my husband became (or was growing over time) an alcoholic. He refused to deal with it until I took the step of threatening him with a divorce or AA. He went to AA the next morning and our life was transformed to this day. He is forever thankful for AA in his life and so am I. Our marriage is so strong. We love each other and cannot imagine not being together no matter what. And we are forever grateful that we found our person.

Timmi
4 months ago

You are so right that there are many marriages within a marriage. We have been married for 52 years and are still crazy about each other. We have had so many adventures and are not done yet! I actually think of it as different chapters of our life. It is a page turner for sure!

4 months ago

I loved reading this, and I am so happy for both of you. As a parents of two highschoolers,
we are nearing that next stage which feels, among many emotions, exciting and foreign. It’s been a long time since it was just the two of us – well, three – we have a dog. 🙂 To many more healthy, fun years.!

Summer
4 months ago

Thank you for sharing this. I am 3 years into my marriage, and grew up with divorced parents, grandparents and very few family members who weren’t divorced. I am always so excited when I read about people who have been together for a long time. I have no roadmap for it but I aspire to it! Pieces like that that are full of empathy and compassion for everything that marriage is really help. I’ll be remembering the “multiple marriages” part for sure.

Betty
4 months ago

I met a couple this morning – he’s 99 and she’s 88 years old. They both looked unusually fit and younger than their age. He was sitting at the kitchen table in his white bathrobe wearing a black French beret and round glasses, she had rollers in her hair and was laughing and so full of life, it was such a pleasure seeing them. They’ve been married for over 64 years and one can tell that they are just crazy about each other. Seeing these two gave me so much pleasure and I wish all couples would end up the same way. It made my day, just as your story did!

Kelley
4 months ago

Thank you for posting this, Emily. My husband and I have been married for 15 years and we have 3 small children. Our relationship isn’t bad but it’s not exactly thriving, either. I really appreciate hearing your perspective, it’s encouraging.

Vera
4 months ago
Reply to  Kelley

Sending you love Kelley!

4 months ago

This post is so tender, loving, vulnerable and wise. My husband and I met at 21, started dating at 22 and will celebrate 25 years in April. We have indeed had “many marriages in one.”

Julie L
4 months ago

Thank you for sharing…and please continue to post about your point of view regarding love, life, and family😍. They are my favorite parts of the blog! Happy Birthday to your guy🎉. Which reminds me, that the most memorable posts are actually from Said Guy (sorry Emily😂). So insightful, inspiring, and funny all at once. Cheers to Brian!

Sydney
4 months ago

This resonates so much for me. My husband and I also met when we were young (18 & 21) and married 8 years later. We included a line in our wedding vows that I think captures this feeling of things growing and changing in a relationship, “I choose who you are today and who you are yet to become.” 15 years after we met, we are in the thick of parenting a 1.5 year old and definitely in a new phase of our relationship. Thank you for the reminder of our vows and our “scaffolding.”

Caitlin
4 months ago

Gorgeous! Happy Anniversary and Happy Birthday to Brian! I am finding many of the same things to be true in my decades long relationship, and it’s a work in progress but a delight when we get to connect as our true selves again 💕

Cici Haus
4 months ago

Thank you so much for sharing. What a wonderful, lovely post, so heartfelt and vulnerable and so Emily. This is why I come here every day – you and the whole team are just so wonderfully yourselves.

Monica
4 months ago

At a festival over the weekend, I saw a beautiful film, Songs of Earth, that told the story of director Margareth Olin’s parent’s love against the otherworldly backdrop of the valley in Norway where she and her parents are from. Almost immediately, I was crying because even though I know I’ll never experience anything like the life shown in the film, there’s something amazing about knowing it exists. That’s how I felt about reading this post, too. And, as the wedding videographer in the Amazon show about two Delhiite wedding planners, Made in Heaven, says, “Epic love stories will mesmerize forever… Maybe they exist so we don’t stop believing in love.” I asked before if Emily would ever consider writing a romance novel. I’ve wondered since if she’s thought about doing a podcast (after the podcast rec post, naturally), about writing a book (especially after the post on the vagaries of the business side of things in the ever-evolving world of social media and after reading this post, too!) or about starting a substack (everyone’s doing it…though not as sure how it works when you are already on so many platforms…) Happy Birthday to Brian and Happy Anniversary to you… Read more »